28 Jul NEW YORK POST-COLLEGE
Today I woke up tired and exhausted. Working full time in New York, also known as a city full of 9 million cut-throat rats, has it’s + and – (but that’s for another post…). Although it is hard as fuck, I actually really love it here. It has truly made me thicken my skin and push myself to really follow my dreams and become somebody I look up to. If you are still in college or a recent grad and you’re shitting your pants trying to figure out your next life steps, believe me–it will workout. Everything will fall into place and you will be OK.
Sometimes it is so overwhelming trying to map out what you will do with your life but honestly you don’t exactly have to decide right away, it takes time to figure that out but you just have to make a move in some kind of direction and start somewhere. I came to the city without a job and with few leads and somehow I came out alive without being swallowed up. But the most important lesson I’ve learned so far is to be open to everything. Different experiences and all these new emotions that kept creeping in… it is so import to embrace all of it, the struggles and the good times. You have to accept yourself and your journey before anyone else will. It is scary relocating from a small town in Alabama and figuring everything out from scratch and with real stakes attached to it but you will thank yourself later when you end up starting to climb your professional and personal ladder.
What I realized about the job market is that it doesn’t wait for you to graduate to give you a job in the specific industry you majored in. If you think you have some sort of ‘right’ to the job of your dreams because you majored in “business” or any other major, you’re dead wrongggg. You are not guaranteed anything in the job market or life, if you want it, it is up to YOU to go and chase it down. Before I officially moved to New York, which was on May 20th, I came here end of December and a few more times to job hunt. I spend many hours when I was here in December/January staying up till 5am, pulling my resume together and applying to jobs and also printing 50 copies of my resume and going to places in person in the freezing blizzard weather. It not only made me more confident and better at interviewing but also added grit and patience. Some might think it’s inefficient when everything is done online but going in person really stood out on my many walk ins. Not saying you should do the same but sometimes it can be mutually beneficent for you and for the company. It’s also great to find a strategy that works for you especially since the job market is as hard as it has ever been to break into, thanks to many young people earning college degrees and that level of education becoming the norm not the exception any more, not that your human value should be based on a paper but it can aid you professionally.
Another great pointer is to choose a career path based on growth and not $$$. It is so hard to do because we associate money with our worth and value, which can be true but also when you are just starting out you’d rather be someone’s office assistant than a waitress at a bar just based on further future career advancements. I wouldn’t say that I am making bank right now and will be making big purchases anytime soon, the thrift store might be my new best friend but I am happier starting at the bottom of the chain with a great growth system in place than a stagnant position.
Let me know how you guys got started/paved a path for yourselves? Let’s talk about this. I would genuinely love to to hear your story. And as always, THANK YOU for being on this journey with me and for being patient…it has been incredible hard to post while working 60h weeks but I will try to be better for you guys and share more.